Lessons today

"Being nice is not something to do."

- Two Worlds, ep. 2

"It's better to be the enemy of a good person,
than to be a friend of a bad one.

Lebih baik menjadi musuh seseorang yang baik, daripada menjadi teman orang yang jahat.

-Anonymous 

A weekend well-spent

I think I've never written anything about my travels. I need to make it a habit so I can have written memories about the interesting things in my life.

So, first ever travel journal: Jakarta.

I haven't been there since forever. I can't even remember since when... Was it 2007 or 2008, or after that. 

Didn't really want to ever visit Jakarta because the traffic is traumatic. 

But a close friend is getting married so we have a excuse reason to go. 

I have to say this time the experience has been much better.
Jakarta is kinder to me this time.

• There was less traffic. 

It helps, of course, that I arrived at 11 pm on Friday and went to the airport on 3 pm on Monday. And I was late meeting people most of the time, but hey, at least I got to meet them on the same day instead of the next day!

• Uber ist gut

Seriously. It's much better than taking Taxi. It comes immediately, and it's dirt cheap. I was pleasantly surprised.

• Partying, partying, hey!

Got to go some fancy places in Jakarta, like the Cloud Lounge. The place is meh, but what's good is I got to meet some old friends (and new)! The rare kind souls that I was lucky enough to befriend.

And not forgetting the best thing about visiting Indonesia: FOOD

 Bebek goreng and nasi bakar.

LOTS OF FOOD:

Mi kepiting, sate babi, churros + Spanish coffee.

Gado-gado, and siomay Bandung.

And a lot more, but too many to list here. 

I might not be back to Jakarta any time soon, but now I have a better memory of this crowded city.

Next stop: Phuket!

Innie Outtie

Introverts are like a closed book, which you have to open and read yourself. Some have a lock you can't open, some can't be read because it's written in different language, some can't be understood even after you read it.

Extroverts are like audio-book that has an autoplay function, which off or pause button is so hidden, it's seldom can be found.

(Yeah, yeah, that's not what introvert/extrovert mean, but that's how I see them)

"Take your time"

I wish people stop saying "take your time".
I know sometimes it means 'it's not priority, please do other more important thing first'.
But this permission to take one's time only works for people with high integrity.

For lazy people it means 'oh I don't have to do it now, I'll do it when they're actually panicking about it'.
So let's stop giving lazy people permission to take their time.

The only time we should take we time is to stop and think.
Take our time to make a decision, take our time to take a deep breath so that we don't say that next sarcastic thing that 'hurtful sometimes', or on the other hand, take our time to think up of the most sarcastic thing we can come up with.

Otherwise, please don't take your time.
When we work on something, or preparing to go somewhere, or realising our dreams.
Have a sense of urgency.

Ms. Temper and Grumpy Cat

Most of our problems come from the inability to say no.

Kebanyakan dari masalah-masalah kita adalah ketidakbisaan untuk mengatakan tidak.

Nam Jung Gi

"Only money that makes you comfortable when accepting is truly yours.
Money that makes you uneasy when taking, it always comes back to bite you."

Wisdom from the dad in Ms. Temper and Nam Jung Gi

Reality vs expectation

What I say:
"Hi team, please remember to send in your weekly report. Here is the link. Don't hesitate to email me if you have any question."

What I really want to say:
"Please do your freaking work and remember the freaking deadline and not make your team leaders remind you every freaking week. This is not a freaking high school where your teacher has to remind you to do your freaking homework. Your teacher is being paid to do that, now you're being paid to do your works you little shitheads."

Alexander

Heartless

"You laugh at me because I'm different, 

I laugh at you because you're all the same." 

- Jonathan Davis

Toupe

This is my favorite cat. If Sheldon has his chair, I have this cat. "In an ever-changing world it is a single point of consistency."
She's not mine, though she's a free cat. Or free-range cat, the way the hispters call it.

We call her Toupe (or Toupée, if you're feeling fancy) because the marking on her head looks like a wig with middle parting.

Look how fat she is. No, she's not pregnant. 

We thought she was pregnant, but she's been like that for the past 2 years. 

Life must've been good for her.