~Audi alteram partem~

You know your part of the story. Now hear the other side.
Cos everyone just want to be heard

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The hurtful things he says

"You're too selfish."
"You have no integrity."
"You don't have the ability to care about other people."
"You only think about yourself."
"You're so childish."
"You don't plan for your life."

And my unspoken defense is just this.

I was never one for pretenders.
Everything I tried to be, just wouldn't settle in.

If I told you what I was, would you turn your back on me?

Can I clear my conscience, if I'm different from the rest?
Do I have to run and hide?

Secrets of INFJ

From: Article 10 secrets of the INFJ
The INFJ is the rarest of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types. People who identify as INFJs are deeply complex individuals.

Awh.. stop it you. So proud that I'm an INFJ. Didn't know I was such a spuhsial snowflake.
Bad news, though, INFJs are borderline psychopaths.
So I guess it's good that there are so few of us.
They’re like onions — they have many layers. The more you get to know them, the more layers you’ll discover, all the while moving further inward toward the core of their true self. They may not show all the aspects of their personality to the world, instead keeping some parts hidden for only a chosen few people they trust.

Too bad not many appreciate us. Who's got the time to peel off so many layers, am I rite?
Honestly, though, we're like onions more because when you ever decide to cut us, you won't be able to stop crying.

So what are some of the less obvious aspects of the INFJ personality?

1. INFJs feel profoundly misunderstood. INFJs have a unique outlook on life. Because of their dominant function, introverted intuition, they often know information without knowing how or why they know it.
This unique ability, which is the primary way the INFJ functions in the world, can be difficult to explain to other people, says personality profiler Antonia Dodge, who co-owns Personality Hacker. Often INFJs give up trying to explain their ability (or don’t try at all, because they know how unusual it sounds), which leaves them feeling isolated and misunderstood.

I'm an vampire-elf and I can read your minds, mwahahaha..

2. INFJs absorb other people’s emotions. No other Myers-Briggs personality type has this unique ability. Some INFJs even report absorbing the emotions of strangers, says Dodge. An INFJ suddenly may feel grumpy, only to look around the room and discover a grumpy-looking person has just walked in. The closer the relationship to the INFJ, like a spouse or best friend, the more likely it is that the INFJ will absorb that person’s emotions and mental state.
This can be overwhelming to the INFJ at times, but this ability also can be used to bring emotional healing and comfort to others. “The ability to unconsciously absorb other people’s emotions with very little information to go on — how is that not a super power?” says Dodge. “They have the ability to get inside the suffering of others and tell them it’s going to be OK.”

Hm.. I thought INFPs are more absorbent than us.
Guess that's why I try not to be friends with idiotic people. Or the dramatic ones. Or the expressive ones. Or just any one.

3. INFJs have amazing long-range forecasting abilities. Their introverted intuition function makes them future-oriented. When they meet someone new, they often can predict where the relationship will go, says Joel Mark Witt, co-owner with Dodge of Personality Hacker. “They’ll often cut themselves off from having casual relationships,” says Witt, if they don’t think that the relationship is going to bring the desired outcome.

And this is why I don't have friends LOL

4. Even though they are “feelers,” INFJs can easily access their “thinking” ability. In fact, INFJs often mistype as “thinkers.” Although they are people-oriented, they may see themselves as analytical and scientific, and they may enjoy careers such as computer programing or accounting. Because their “feeling” process is second in their functional stack and their “thinking” process is third, those two processes are more balanced than those of dominant feelers such as ENFJs, who lead with their “feeling” process.

Jokes aside, this is mainly what separate us INFJs with INFPs. We are dreamers, but we know how to keep the dreams in our heads and face the reality as it is. Sorry, INFPs.

5. One of their greatest strengths is their ability to create intimacy with other people. Despite sometimes appearing quiet and reserved to casual acquaintances, INFJs are actually extremely relational. Because they can feel other people’s pain and joy, they are able to truly walk in another person’s shoes, like no other personality type can. This ability to empathize creates strong bonds of intimacy, says Dodge.

Yeaaah.. all or nothing. Which is baffling for many extroverts. Oh look, point number 6:

6. INFJs are truly introverts. When they feel comfortable around a person, or if they’re fighting for a cause in which they truly believe, INFJs can be mistaken for extroverts. Yet INFJs are true introverts who prefer to have a small social circle, and they require plenty of downtime alone to recharge their “introvert batteries.”

Please don't ever tell an INFJ: "Oh, the weather is so good today." All of our sarcastic muscle will start tingling.

7. INFJs are sensitive. INFJs seek harmony in their relationships, so anytime conflict arises — especially in close relationships — INFJs can become very bothered and lose focus. They may feel the stress and tension of conflict physically in their bodies. They often take criticism personally.

Yeah. My simple solution is to cut of these negative things and people from my life. My same new year's resolution every year: Don't bother doing things that make me unhappy. Stay away from people who makes me unhappy.

8. INFJs know a lot about other people. Not even they know how they know so much, nor will they reveal the depth of their knowledge, says Dodge.

It actually surprises me how much people don't know about each other or about themselves. I just found out that apparently a lot of things that are obvious to me are actually not that obvious.
There are many times when I meet new people and I thought "omg this guy is bad news, better stay away" or "omg such a great character, hope we can be friends for a long time", then I will turn to my friend and said what I thought... and I'd get a "How do you know that?? That's assumption. You're overthinking it." And I'll tell him/her, "How do you NOT know that?? It's so obvious." Then we both get confused.

9. Many relationships are one-sided for INFJs. Nicknamed “the counselor” personality type, the INFJ is a skilled active listener who truly cares about other people and helping them with their problems. Unfortunately, this results in many of the INFJ’s relationships becoming one-sided. What INFJs really desire, says Witt, is for other people to return the favor of taking the time to listen to them and truly understand them.

Fortunately, not my better half (see point 10), but with other relationships, yeah more or less spot on.

10. INFJs are looking for their soul mates. These are friends or a significant other with whom INFJs connect deeply. Because of their introversion, their unique outlook on life, and their desire for authentic relationships, INFJs may struggle to create the kind of relationships they desire. When they do find people with whom they truly connect, it feels almost miraculous.

Found mine, and we tolerate each other more than we tolerate other people. When things get rough and we feel like we can't or won't tolerate each other anymore (aka going our separate ways), I'd peek through the windows, see all the stupidity around me, and would decide that I'm better off sticking with him than with anyone else XD

12 April 2016

The Irish dreams

My boyfriend is being accepted to an Irish university.
It's something that he's planned for a long time, but at the same time, came unexpectedly because he didn't expect to be accepted.

The path to heaven runs through miles of clouded hell.
Right to the top.
Don't look back.

So this is how it feels, getting half of everything.
Going back to writing my own journal.
Queen of My Heart playing in my head.

But it's all for the better.
Soon I'll be going.
Going to the hometown I've never been.

It's time to begin, isn't it?


It's ok to be sad. It's also okay to be angry.

“...anger could be thought of as an intermediate emotion. An event happens, the brain doesn't have time (or doesn't want to) to fully process the situation and it needs a reaction, so anger is what's used until there's more time to examine everything in more detail.”^

“It’s the one that tells us we need to take action to put something right,” she says. “Anger is a problem-solving emotion. It gives us strength and energy, and motivates us to act.”^

“Nobody ever gets into trouble for feeling angry. But people sometimes get into trouble for what they do when they feel angry.”^

Image of God

"...if man is made in the image of his god, and man is a corrupt entity
- wouldn’t it stand to reason that god is a corrupt entity?"

Jika manusia diciptakan menurut rupa tuhan, dan manusia adalah sebuah wujud yang curang
- bukankah sebuah argument yang benar untuk mengatakan bahwa tuhan adalah sebuah wujud yang curang?

Wisdom is timeless

"Out in the open wisdom calls aloud, she raises her voice in the public square;
on top of the wall she cries out, at the city gate she makes her speech:
How long will you who are simple love your simple ways? 
 How long will mockers delight in mockery and fools hate knowledge?

Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control."

-Keep in mind the Proverb of the wise.

Oost Indië

As an Indonesian, I know that many of the Indonesian words came from other languages. Sanskrit, Arabic, and the more modern English. And one that should not come as a surprise: Dutch. We were after all colonised for more than 3 decades by the Netherlanders.

However, it's still surprised me whenever I find out that a word is actually from Dutch.

Here are some of them that I find very interesting that they're actually not originally Indonesian (for the full list, drop by Wikipedia instead):

Original word
Baskom Washbasin Waskom
Beha Brassiere Beha
Bioskop Cinema Bioscoop
Dasi Necktie Das(je)
Ember Bucket Emmer
Handuk Towel Handdoek
Kaisar Emperor Kaizer
Kamar Room Kamer
Kantor Office Kantoor
Kulkas Fridge Koelkast
Laci Deskdrawer Laatje; La(de)
Mantel Coat Mantel
Montir Mechanic Monteur
Om Uncle Oom
Oma Grandma Oma
Opa Grandpa Opa
Pabrik Factory Fabriek
Rekening Account Rekening
Resleting Zipper Ritssluiting
Rokok Ciggarette Roken (to smoke)
Selang Water hose Slang
Suster Nun/nurse Zuster
Tas Bag Tas
Telat Late Te laat (too late)
Wastafel Sink Wastafel
Wortel Carrot Wortel

The one that amuses me specifically is "te laat". But now that I know the original word, it actually makes more sense.

Harry Potter's characters birthdays

Source: Geek Tyrant.

9 (1960) - Severus Snape
30 (1960) - Lily Potter

6 - Arthur Weasley

1 (1980) - Ron Weasley
10 (1960) - Remus Lupin
27 (1960) - James Potter

1 (1978) - Fred and George Weasley

15 - Pomona Sprout

5 (1980) - Draco Malfoy
28 - Dobby

30 (1980) - Neville Longbottom
31 (1980) - Harry James Potter

11 (1981) - Ginny Weasley
22 (1976) - Percy Weasley

7 - Cho Chang’s mother
19 (1979) - Hermione Granger

4 - Minerva McGonagall
17 - Filius Flitwick
30- Molly Weasley
Sometime in the week before Halloween (exact date unknown) - Angelina Johnson

29 (1970) - Bill Weasley

6 (1928) - Rubeus Hagrid
12 (1972) - Charlie Weasley
31 (1926) - Tom Marvolo Riddle (Lord Voldemort)

Harry Potter Author's Dedication

JK Rowling always dedicated her books to certain people. Ever wonder who are the people whose names is written on the beginning of each book and why they get the honorary position?

Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's/Philosopher's Stone

For Jessica, who loves stories, for Anne, who loved them too, and for Di, who heard this one first.

Jessica is JK's twelve-year-old daughter. Anne was JK's mother, who, unfortunately, died of Multiple Sclerosis on December 30th, 1990. Dianne, or Di, is JK's younger sister who she read Sorcerer's/Philosopher's Stone before Jo sent it off to be reviewed.

Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

For Sean P.F. Harris, getaway driver and foulweather friend.

JK met Sean at her secondary school, Wyedean, when she was eleven. "He was the first of my friends to learn to drive and that turquoise and white car meant FREEDOM and no more having to ask my father to give me lifts, which is the worst thing about living in the countryside when you are a teenager." JK said in her website, JKR.com. "Some of the happiest memories of my teenage years involve zooming off into the darkness in Sean's car. He was the first person with whom I really discussed my serious ambition to be a writer and he was also the only person who thought I was bound to be a success at it, which meant much more to me than I ever told him at the time."

Harry Potter and Prisoner of Azkaban

To Jill Prewett and Aine Kiely, the godmothers of Swing.

Jill Prewett and Aine Kiely were JK's flatmates when she lived in Portugal. They used to visit a club/restaurant called "Swing" regularly. Because they spent so much time there, Jo called themselves its godmothers.

Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

To Peter Rowling, in memory of Mr Ridley and to Susan Sladden, who helped Harry out of his cupboard.

Peter Rowling is JK's father. Mr Ridley refers to Ronald Ridley, an old family friend of the Rowlings. This man's name was the inspiration for Ron Weasley's name. Susan Sladden could be the Susan JK once referred to in an interview as the woman who used to look after Jessica (JK's daughter) while she worked on the Harry Potter books.

Harry Potter and the Order of Phoenix

To Neil, Jessica and David, who make my world magical.

Dr. Neil Murray is Jk's husband. Jessica, her daughter. And David, her son.

Harry Potter and Half-Blood Prince

To Mackenzie, my beautiful daughter, I dedicate her ink and paper twin.

Mackenzie Jean Rowling Murray, JK's third child, was born on January 23rd, 2005. Mackenzie and Book 6 were being "made" (developed/written) around the same time, and were both finished (born/published) almost simultaneously, hence Mackenzie's "ink and paper twin".

Harry Potter and Deathly Hallows

The dedication of this book is split seven ways: to Neil, to Jessica, to David, to Kenzie, to Di, to Anne, and to you, if you have stuck with Harry until the very end.

The "seven-way split" refers to some of those with whom JK has shared her life while writing Harry; Dr. Neil Murray is JK's husband; Jessica, David, and Mackenzie are her children; Di is JK's younger sister, Dianne/Anne is JK's mother who died at 45 of MS (although JK's mother did not know of the books since she died early on, JK has said her death had a profound influence on how the series was written), and the final dedication is to all the fans who have made Harry's journey their own.

Revelation: Hidden Message in The Avengers

Black Widow, Ironman, Thor, Captain America, Hulk.

..take your time, you'll see it
(just like in the movie, Hawkeye is dispensable).

And the answer is...

I know nobody asks, it's because they don't know the question yet.
For those who already realize the problem, good for you.
For those who haven't, I save you the agony of pilgrimage looking for an answer.

It is a question arouse from me trying to be smart and went to read the 1200-odd-page of Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged. The book is beautiful; a work of art. But that would be a totally different story.
The book holds the philosophy/conviction that Ayn Rand introduced: Objectivism.
For a long time, I tried to understand the essence of that philosophy, but only lately I can grasp the full meaning of it.
Here it is, in Ayn Rand's very own words:

"My philosophy, Objectivism, holds that:

Reality exists as an objective absolute—facts are facts, independent of man’s feelings, wishes, hopes or fears. Reason (the faculty which identifies and integrates the material provided by man’s senses) is man’s only means of perceiving reality, his only source of knowledge, his only guide to action, and his basic means of survival. Man—every man—is an end in himself, not the means to the ends of others. He must exist for his own sake, neither sacrificing himself to others nor sacrificing others to himself. The pursuit of his own rational self-interest and of his own happiness is the highest moral purpose of his life. The ideal political-economic system is laissez-faire capitalism. It is a system where men deal with one another, not as victims and executioners, nor as masters and slaves, but as traders, by free, voluntary exchange to mutual benefit. It is a system where no man may obtain any values from others by resorting to physical force, and no man may initiate the use of physical force against others. The government acts only as a policeman that protects man’s rights; it uses physical force only in retaliation and only against those who initiate its use, such as criminals or foreign invaders. In a system of full capitalism, there should be (but, historically, has not yet been) a complete separation of state and economics, in the same way and for the same reasons as the separation of state and church."


One day, we will all learn to be proud of our achievements, freely.
He who dares not to talk about his achievement, has achieved nothing.
-Inspired by Francisco D'Anconia.
Dancer jump
Cliff jump
Skate jump

Why some people hate everyone

This is an article from The Straits Times' Mind Your Body 15 March 2012.
Thought it's lovely and everyone should read this.

by Gary Hayden (gary@garyhayden.co.uk)

One of my all-time favorite thinkers is Greek philosopher Heraclitus (535-475 BC). Not so much because of his ideas --though he had some very profound ones-- but rather because he was so deliciously eccentric.
He was the archetypal grumpy old man.
He lived in a state of permanent irritation at the stupidity and corruptness of his fellow citizens.
So much that eventually, he went into the mountains to lead a solitary life surviving on a diet of grass and plants.
Unfortunately, this back-to-nature lifestyle did not agree with him. He ended up suffering from dropsy, an abnormal accumulation of fluid beneath the skin.
He returned to the city and consulted some doctors, but they were unable to help him. This was hardly surprising as he explained his symptoms to them in the form of a riddle.
The upshot was that he tried to treat himself by lying in a stable and covering himself with cow dung. Whereupon, he died.
It was a sad and ironic end for a man whose philosophical theories stressed the need for people to live together in a social harmony.

Heraclitus is a textbook example of a misanthrope, a person who dislikes or distrusts other people or mankind in general. He is, of course, an extreme example.
There are few people in the everyday world whose dislike of others leads them to shun society, life off grass and cover themselves with manure. But nonetheless, there is no shortage of misanthropes, of a milder variety, out there.
Some time ago, I met a woman in a cafe who used to be in the same class as I was at school. I began to reminisce about some of our old schoolmates and said how lovely it would be to see them again. "I wouldn't want to see any of them," she repilied. "I hated everyone at school."
Here is another example. I spoke to a man in England recently who told me that he was suffering from high blood pressure and that the doctors could not identify the cause. "I know what it is, though," he said. "I sit at home and I get to thinking about the state of the world. It makes me angry and I brood and brood. That's what's causing it all."
Of course, it is not the world itself that he is angry with. It is the people who live in it.
He has become disillusioned and disappointed with mankind in general.

What makes people misanthropic?
People are complex creatures. So doubtless there are many and varied reasons why people grow to dislike and distrust others.
But one interesting and plausible explanation of the misanthropic temperament comes from the Greek philosopher Plato, who came a hundred years or so after Heraclitus.
He said: "Misanthropy develops when without art (that is, naively) one puts complete trust in somebody thinking the man absolutely true and sound and reliable, and then a little later discovers him to be bad and unreliable... and when it happens to someone often... he ends up... hating everyone."
In other words, the misanthrope falls victim to his own unrealistic expectations about how other people can be expected to behave.
Most of us realize that other people are sometimes selfish, lazy, unkind, shallow, stupid, and ungrateful. Even the best of them are sure to disappoint us from time to time. Just as we disappoint them from time to time.
Being realists, we accept this and try not to get too worked up about it. Not so, the misanthrope.
His naivety, or misplaced optimism, or whatever it is, sets him up for disappointment after disappointment and lead eventually to bitterness and disillusionment. The misanthrope would be wiser to expect a little less from others.
Sure, people do not always behave as they ought to. And some people behave very badly indeed. But we ought to have some respect for human frailty and remember that most men and women are neither terribly good nor terribly bad.
The Dutch philosopher, Baruch Spinoza (1632-1677), showed marvelous good sense when he urged: "Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."


”Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events that are apparently causally unrelated or unlikely to occur together by chance and that are observed to occur together in a meaningful manner. Synchronistic events reveal an underlying pattern, a conceptual framework that encompasses, but is larger than, any of the systems that display the synchronicity. Concurrent events that first appear to be coincidental but later turn out to be causally related are termed incoincident.”
-Carl Jung

What's your life philosophy?


14 Things about Garfield that you might not know.

1. His owner's name is Jon Arbuckle. Jon is a cartoonist.
2. The real cartoonist name is Jim Davis.
3. The first ever strip was drawn on 19 June 1978. Thus, Garfield's birthday is 19 June.

4. Odie, Jon's dog, was actually owned by Lyman Johnson, a friend of Jon's who was his roommate.
5. Odie was first introduced in 8 August 1978 strip, along with Lyman.

6. Garfield's favorite teddy bear is named Pooky. His first appearance was on 23 October 1978.

7. Jon met his girlfriend, Liz, when he took Garfield for a checkup on 26 June 1978. Obviously, she's a vet. After so many rejections, Jon finally gets a date with Liz on 21 April  1980

8. Garfiel LOVES coffee.. and is pretty much addicted to caffeine.

9. Garfield was born 5 pounds 6 ounces, in Mama Leoni's Italian Restaurant. That explains his love for lasagna..

10. And, oh yeah, Garfield has a grandpa.

11. Garfield has an archenemy named Nermal. He's the "world's cutest kitten" owned by Jon's mom.

12. Since Jon has a girlfriend, Garfield doesn't want to be left behind too. He's been seeing a pink/purple cat called Arlene since 17 December 1980.

13. Despite his penchant for holding a newspaper while drinking coffee in the morning, Garfield cannot read.

14. Garfield has an invisible friend called Clive. He was debuted on 22 April 1996 and last seen on 16 June 2003.

If you're a big fan of this chubby cat, the full list of Garfield comics can be read here.
If you're a bigger fan, every information about Garfield is available in Garfield Wiki.


Did you know..
An escalator in Port Pobedy in Moscow Metro (of course they don't call it "MRT"), Russia, stretches 126.8 meters, and it took three freaking minutes from one end to the other.

So, cut it out already.
Love is a leap of faith?

I'm sorry, I'm afraid to fall.
I don't want to be a fool.

Black Swan

So, even though I spent my Valentine's Day as a single (only on that day, ok), I had a lot of fun. Yes, I'm that kind of person that like to celebrate days, unlike some people.
Started the Day of Love suck-ily, including bashing someone at the Ministry of Manpower, but I had fun nevertheless.

Went out with my friends to watch the long-awaited movie, Black Swan. Yep, the one by Darren Aronofsky and with Natalie Portman in it. First got mixed between The Cathay and Cathay Cineplex of Singapore (as I always do. Sorry, guys), but we made it to the right cinema, and thus to the movie, just in time.

It's a dark movie.
That's what can be said about it in short. If you're suicidal, please don't watch the movie.
Oh well, seems like that's the only thing you can expect from a director that made Requiem for a Dream.

It's a mysterious movie even the way it's produced. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I've been a movie enthusiast whole my life, and I haven't encountered a movie that has 7 different promotional posters that are equally distributed and only 2 stated the name of the director. Isn't it funny that he prefers to be known as 'the director of The Westler' rather than 'Darren Aronofsky'?
And most of them are in the color of black, red, and white.
To my fellow conspiracy theorists, you must know what it means.

For my fellow movie enthusiasts, esp. those who already watched the movie, don't you find it odd that Natalie Portman should play such character? When I got the ticket, I noticed that they printed M18 hugely. When I watch the movie, I thought it's only appropriate. If you're underage, going with a children, or a sex addict, please don't watch the movie.

But I love it.
To be honest, the only other movie I've seen by Aronofsky is Requiem (cos there's Jared Leto in it! *promotion*).
I think I should go watch The Fountain and The Westler now.
But from both movies, I can already draw the distinct styles of the director.

The camera panning, the switching between scenes, the lighting, the synchronization of the visual and the audio, and smooth blend between real shots and CGI.
And the music. Both Requiem and Black Swan had taken the famous music from legendary composers. In this particular movie, the original music from Tchaikovsky was "played backwards and in a distorted manner".
How cool is that.
The soundtracks of the movie stuck in my head long after I went back home, esp. the last scene where Nina performed as the Black Swan. And I don't usually remember musics. It's just all brilliant.

Cinematography aside, the story talks about ambition, obsession, and control, both to ourselves and to other people. It reminds us, everything that's excessive is not good.
There's also the play on mirrors. Mirrors seldom fail in spooking people up, but Aronofsky takes it to the next level.
Then there's the acting and the dancing. Gosh, I forgot how much I loved ballet. Natalie Portman is not only admirable as an actress, but also as a ballerina. Watching her as Nina, one can really see how dedicated she was for the movie. I shall not say further, lest I ruin the movie for you.
Oh yeah, you really should go and watch the movie. Esp. guys, you don't want to miss out the kissing scene between Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis.

"I was perfect."

My favorite love songs of all time

-:Y- Hear-melting -Y:-
Christina Aguilera: Without You, Bound to You.
Robbie William: Angels.
Westlife: Every Little Thing You Do, Close, In This Life, That's Where You Find Love.

-:Y- Fun -:Y-
Boyzone: All That I Need
Taylor Swift: Hey Stephen, Mine.