Nice vs kind

Every once in a while, come along people who inspire you.

Some of them inspire you to be great because they're great. Some people inspire you to be a poet because they're the lowest scum on this earth.

And lately, I'm surrounded by the 2nd type of people. More precisely, the self-proclaimed "nice people".

I can't get over people who self-proclaim they're nice. I have so many bad news for them:

1. Perhaps you're too dumb to realise that YOU're the one who's been irritating the people around you. Irritating people with your stupidity and self-entitlement.
2. Your grammar and spelling are so bad, you're irritating ME.
3. I don't think you really understand what 'nice' means: 

Please don't be proud of being nice.
'Nice' is not a character, 'nice' is a mask you put on to make other people like you.
A lot of nice people are just fake-ass trying to please everyone around them. So don't be proud if people say you're nice. And be ashamed to call yourself nice.

If you want to be better, please be KIND. Being kind is something inherent (if you're too dumb to understand the word, please Google it. If you don't know how to Google it, please go jump into the sea), something that you are, with or without other people looking.

And even then, even when you've managed to be a kind person, please don't go around telling people what a kind person you are.

Because that's just looking for attention. 

Don't be a narcissist.

"Stop trying to save the world, INFJ,
the world doesn't want to be saved."

-a veteran INFJ.

"Those who don't ask questions, stay dumb."

From original quote "who'd not make question, stay dumb" by a random German dude.

Everybody's Fool

Perfect by nature, icons of self indulgence.
Just what we all need, more lies about a world that

Never was and never will be. Have you no shame? Don't you see me? 

You know you've got everybody fooled.

Look here she comes now. Bow down and stare in wonder.
Oh, how we love you. No flaws when you're pretending.
But now I know she

Never was and never will be. You don't know how you've betrayed me. 

And somehow you've got everybody fooled.

Without the mask where will you hide? Can't find yourself lost in your lie.
I know the truth now. I know who you are.
And I don't love you anymore.

It never was and never will be. You don't know how you've betrayed me.

 And somehow you've got everybody fooled.

  Never was and never will be. You're not real and you can't save me.

 And somehow now you're everybody's fool.

Because, Google, I'm not Malay and the language I've been using is Indonesian.
For a mega-corporation, you're quite stupid. Jesus.

Wisdom is timeless

"Out in the open wisdom calls aloud, she raises her voice in the public square;
on top of the wall she cries out, at the city gate she makes her speech:
How long will you who are simple love your simple ways? 
 How long will mockers delight in mockery and fools hate knowledge?

Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control."

-Keep in mind the Proverb of the wise.

Useful gif...

...for when someone you hate say anything at all.

Imperator Joe

Me: What should I dress up for Halloween.. Maybe something in Mad Max theme.
Bf: Expectation --Charlize Theron. Reality --Immortan Joe.

THANKS, BOYFRIEND.

Goodbye, Hank Rearden

I thought you're a fighter
I thought you'd fight for what you deserve
Not letting them define you by their standards

But you let the standards go
And you let yourself down

I can't help you
and can't be seen with you
So goodbye, Hank Rearden

Nothing is true

I love Assassin's Creed maybe cos deep down I wish I'm part of a tight-knit brotherhood (not sisterhood cos girls bring too much drama) that I can rely on.

And deep down I want to kill some people.

While doing some awesome parkour.

Me: Do you think I should do a double-eyelid surgery?
Bf: Why?
Me: I look so sinister with single eyelid.. You know, resting bitch face.
Bf: That's not because of the eyelids.

THANKS, BOYFRIEND.

Once a month, girls play the game of life in difficult mode.

A dot in time

Six years.
People always ask how we can stay together for so long. I don't know. Everything we are say that we won't last. He's a Cancer, I'm a Sagittarius. Water and fire. I'm a Rabbit, he's a Snake. Food and predator. He's a realist, I'm a dreamer. But differences works both ways: Destroying each other, or complementing each other.


Two-thousand one-hundred ninety-two days.
Some say it's a really long time. It's really not compared to eternity. But it's enough time to learn and understand a thing or two.

Well, here's three I learned so far:

Silence is good 

Silence can be useful for many things. Many people find silence awkward, that we have to keep filling it. But you know what? It's ok not to talk to each other. Imagine the moment when you just sit there in his embrace. Not talking about anything, just enjoying the moment.

Silence can save you so many heartaches. When you're fighting, hold your tongue. Don't say mean things. Don't say the thing you'll regret later. And don't talk about it with just anyone. Cos the problem will pass, but other people's memory remains and that memory might just come back and bite you from behind.

Small things matter more 

Someone asked me: What's the most romantic thing your bf ever done to you?
I had difficulties answering it. Not because he's never done anything romantic, but because I have different ideas on what's romantic. And it's difficult to make people understand that.

Romance is not about buying gifts. It's easy to go out there and to buy something. Romance it's not about big earth-shattering gesture. Having a flash mob dancing to my favorite song is not really my thing.

Romance it's about what he does for you, not to you.

It's not when he posts in Facebook -or any social media- how much he loves you. It's when he cleans the room when he doesn't feel like it, just because he knows it'll make you happy. It's not when he vouches he'll die for you. It's when he takes a deep breath and listen when all he wants to do is to scream. It's when he learns to love your bizarre quirks even when they drive him crazy.

Love doesn't fade, it just changes

Most women in bitterness like to say, "He changed." "He doesn't love me anymore." "Because I'm not slim/beautiful/cute anymore."
Well, I have bad news for you for cases like this. Nothing's changed. He just never truly loved you in the first place.

A man who loves you, loves you no matter what. That's what love is. He wants you to be happy. Period. No excuses.
Most importantly, he will always treat you with respect; it's something that will never and shouldn't change. If he doesn't treat you as good anymore, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore. It just means he never loved you to begin with.

Love will change, though. At least, that's how it is from my observation. And it's good.
In the early stage, it's all about pounding hearts, sweaty palms, butterfly in your stomach. But as love grows, it's more about steady hands and firm steps. Like a sunshine on a calm day is May. Instead of make your heart beats faster, seeing the person you love will give you peace, no matter what's happened in that day,

There you go, some of the things I learn in 6 years, and still learning.
Nobody knows where the journey ends. But while we're at it, we'll take it in our strides and enjoy the sceneries along the way.

If everything you do today was recorded as a message for future generations, what kind of message will you leave?

Therefore, be careful with what you write in your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram..

The Falling Star

Teringat Ksatria, Putri, dan Bintang Jatuh
Teringat ketika sang Bintang terjatuh, tersandung cinta
Teringat ketika sang ksatria lebih memilih sang putri
Tapi kini sang Bintang tak lagi jatuh, ia telah mencapai tempat tujuannya
Dan siap menjelma menjadi seorang Putri

Falling is just flying with a rough landing.

What family is

"That's what family is —People who hate you but can't kill you 'cause they're the first ones questioned."

- Max Black from 2 Broke Girls

Intro to introverts

"While extroverts tend to get bored easily when they don't have enough to do, introverts have the opposite problem: they get easily distracted and overwhelmed in environments with an excess of stimulation."

-Scott Barry Kaufman

15 Things That Introverts Would Never Tell You

"The good life doesn't always mean the easy life."

-Matt, a good Christian Dad

Colourful friendship

Look at what my cute colleagues brought me! I'm not big on celebrations, but who can resist this awesome cake brought in by a magical unicorn.

So last year I got 8-flavoured cheesecake, and this year I got 7-coloured rainbow cake! Awesome, awesome, awesome!

It's the most colourful cake I've ever seen in my life!

Fork? What fork?
Who needs fork?

White-veiled occasion

Just watched the movie Ceremony (with Lee Pace, ya'll). It's a shitty movie, but I can't get it off my mind. No, not because of Lee Pace (although I can't keep my mind off him too).

And as usual, when I keep thinking about something, I write it down to transfer the thoughts from my mind to the wide world of web. I wanted to insert a spoiler alert here, but there's nothing much to spoil when the movie is as predictable as Michael Bay's next explosion.

The movie is the predictable boy meets girl, girl meets a man, and decides to marry him instead. Then the boy come to the wedding in the hope to change her mind. What's different in this movie is that, the girl stands by her decision.

Her ex-bf asks her, "Why?" Why does she choose a guy who doesn't like what she likes, who doesn't appreciate her passion? She simply answers, "Because he loves me." Long movie story short, it's true that the groom doesn't share her hobbies, but he loves her enough to forgive her pasts and, to certain points, her lies. He might not love her the way the ex-bf loved her, but who's to say he doesn't love her enough?

Not so much of a plot twist, but it's a new lesson.

Sometimes, we care too much about someone that we think we know what's best for them. This is especially true for parents. In my case it's my friends. They might not realize it (which is a good thing) I care/worry too much about them that I like to suggest them the things I think will be good for them.

Now I understand. I can't take care of everybody, and sure as hell shouldn't. Sure, we can make suggestions, but in the end of the day, they are the ones who live their lives. And hopefully, they are mature enough to make their own decisions, and know what's best for them.

But, if you still think that one of your friend or two shouldn't make the decision s/he has made, here's a Taylor Swift's song to get an idea on how to crash a wedding:

"I spend so much time praying, I have awkward silences with God."

- Olive Snook

When your Hermes is not your muse
And your muse is drown in love
Separated by silence

Love is an art, and art is subjective

Partial credit for Mr. Surya