A girl who has never eaten a lobster in her life...
...expectation:
Girl: I want to eat lobster :(
Boyfriend: *secretly plan a romantic date by the sea with lobster in the menu, and not forgetting the rose petals shower*
...reality:
Girl: I want to eat lobster :(
Boyfriend: Yeah, me too.
Moral of the day:
Don't look for a rich boyfriend, but look for a boyfriend who's willing to spend for you.
Don't look for a boyfriend that can play music instrument, but one who would want to play for you.
Don't look for someone who merely loves you, but one who's willing to show it.
And once again, the Bible is right, don't look for someone who is able to, but for one who is willing to do so.
I take off to chase after you, offering my wonderful life 为 你 我 不 觉 得 牺 牲 wéi nǐ wǒ bù jué dé xī shēng
For you it doesn't feel like a sacrifice 初 恋 伤 痕
chū liàn shāng hén
Scars from first love 多 深 我 就 多 认 真 duō shēn wǒ jiù duō rèn zhēn
The deeper they are, the more devoted I am 勇 敢 爱 也 能 勇 敢 恨
yóng gǎn ài yě néng yóng gǎn hèn
I will love and hate without holding back 勇 敢 承 认 是 我 忍 不 住 沉 沦 yóng gǎn chéng rèn shì wǒ rěn bú zhù chén lún
I will admit without fear, it's me who couldn't help but succumb 是 你 让 爱 情 再 一 次 重 获 新 生
shì nǐ ràng ài qíng zài yí cì zhòng huò xīn shēng
It's you who let love be reborn again
一 百 万 种 亲 吻 比 不 上 你 一 吻
yì bǎi wàn zhǒng qīn wěn bǐ bú shàng nǐ yì wěn
A million kind of kisses, can't compare to your one kiss 味 道 是 诚 恳 是 责 任 是 种 永 恒
This is an article from The Straits Times' Mind Your Body 15 March 2012.
Thought it's lovely and everyone should read this.
by Gary Hayden (gary@garyhayden.co.uk)
Heraclitus
One of my all-time favorite thinkers is Greek philosopher Heraclitus (535-475 BC). Not so much because of his ideas --though he had some very profound ones-- but rather because he was so deliciously eccentric.
He was the archetypal grumpy old man.
He lived in a state of permanent irritation at the stupidity and corruptness of his fellow citizens.
So much that eventually, he went into the mountains to lead a solitary life surviving on a diet of grass and plants.
Unfortunately, this back-to-nature lifestyle did not agree with him. He ended up suffering from dropsy, an abnormal accumulation of fluid beneath the skin.
He returned to the city and consulted some doctors, but they were unable to help him. This was hardly surprising as he explained his symptoms to them in the form of a riddle.
The upshot was that he tried to treat himself by lying in a stable and covering himself with cow dung. Whereupon, he died.
It was a sad and ironic end for a man whose philosophical theories stressed the need for people to live together in a social harmony.
REPEATED DISAPPOINTMENT
Heraclitus is a textbook example of a misanthrope, a person who dislikes or distrusts other people or mankind in general. He is, of course, an extreme example.
There are few people in the everyday world whose dislike of others leads them to shun society, life off grass and cover themselves with manure. But nonetheless, there is no shortage of misanthropes, of a milder variety, out there.
Some time ago, I met a woman in a cafe who used to be in the same class as I was at school. I began to reminisce about some of our old schoolmates and said how lovely it would be to see them again. "I wouldn't want to see any of them," she repilied. "I hated everyone at school."
Here is another example. I spoke to a man in England recently who told me that he was suffering from high blood pressure and that the doctors could not identify the cause. "I know what it is, though," he said. "I sit at home and I get to thinking about the state of the world. It makes me angry and I brood and brood. That's what's causing it all."
Of course, it is not the world itself that he is angry with. It is the people who live in it.
He has become disillusioned and disappointed with mankind in general.
Plato
What makes people misanthropic?
People are complex creatures. So doubtless there are many and varied reasons why people grow to dislike and distrust others.
But one interesting and plausible explanation of the misanthropic temperament comes from the Greek philosopher Plato, who came a hundred years or so after Heraclitus.
He said: "Misanthropy develops when without art (that is, naively) one puts complete trust in somebody thinking the man absolutely true and sound and reliable, and then a little later discovers him to be bad and unreliable... and when it happens to someone often... he ends up... hating everyone."
In other words, the misanthrope falls victim to his own unrealistic expectations about how other people can be expected to behave.
Most of us realize that other people are sometimes selfish, lazy, unkind, shallow, stupid, and ungrateful. Even the best of them are sure to disappoint us from time to time. Just as we disappoint them from time to time.
Being realists, we accept this and try not to get too worked up about it. Not so, the misanthrope.
His naivety, or misplaced optimism, or whatever it is, sets him up for disappointment after disappointment and lead eventually to bitterness and disillusionment. The misanthrope would be wiser to expect a little less from others.
Sure, people do not always behave as they ought to. And some people behave very badly indeed. But we ought to have some respect for human frailty and remember that most men and women are neither terribly good nor terribly bad.
The Dutch philosopher, Baruch Spinoza (1632-1677), showed marvelous good sense when he urged: "Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."
