~Audi alteram partem~

You know your part of the story. Now hear the other side.
Cos everyone just want to be heard
.

The feeling worse than seeing your archenemy living her dream is probably seeing her living your dream.

I don't remember how to spell archenemy doesn't mean I don't remember hating you.

"Oh"

"Oh" is one of the most versatile words in human language.

When you're too shocked to say anything.
When you're moved by a touching story.
When you don't care enough to say anything else.
When you have nothing nice to say.
When 'ok' is not short enough.
"Oh" comes in just fine.

Leap of Faith

Sometimes, you have to make the leap of faith.
The trust part comes later.
-a Priest in Man of Steel.

Doctor Love

The quest of understanding women has been going on forever after. But it still surprise me to find out about Doc Love, who apparently has a whole talk show and website dedicated to teach men 'womanese'. He's selling a book at $99 on The System of the Venus and even coined the term 'women's interest levels' in relationships.

I read a few of his articles in askmen.com and I think the man knows what he's talking about. Mostly, though, I'm more touched knowing men spend so much effort and money to understand women.

But here's a real advice by the mallard duck, that I agree on:
Understanding women

I understand myself and know the games I play and I hate myself sometimes. But let's not go there. I just want to say that when it's about making your female counterpart happy, it's really not that complicated.

Simple (and free) ways to be a perfect boyfriend:

  1. Hold her hands, especially when crossing the road.
    Really, you're going to leave her on the other side of the road when the cars start speeding by?
  2. Offer to pay.
    It's tapping on the ancient note that guys provide. Most nice girls will still insist on splitting the bills, but even if she doesn't, so what? It's a cheap price to pay for her love, no?
  3. Tell her jokes.
    It subconsciously means 2 things: You want her to laugh, to be happy; and that she's special in your eyes cos you tell the joke to her, not anyone else.
  4. Always, always let her walk in front of you.
    It's being respectful and protective at the same time. All the wins for you.
  5. Compliment her at random times.
  6. This works both ways. You'd love it too when your gf compliment you, right? So give her that happiness. God forbids somebody says the compliment first at obvious time, like when she wears a beautiful dress or shoes.
If all else fail, just buy her expensive gifts. It does the trick most of the time.

Sure, Doc Love is not really about making your girlfriend happy, but also about getting the girl you want to notice you. Maybe it's slightly more complicated. I'll need to read The System first before I can comment further. Meanwhile, enjoy this favourite joke of mine (be sure to tell it to your gf!):

Genie's Highway
A man was walking along a California beach and stumbled upon an old lamp. He picked it up and rubbed it and out popped a genie. The genie said "OK. OK. You released me from the lamp, blah, blah, blah. This is the 4th time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these wishes so you can forget about three. You get one wish!"
The man sat and thought about it for a while and said, "I've always wanted to go to Hawaii, but I'm scared to fly and I get very seasick. Could you build me a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive over there to visit?"
The genie laughed and said, "That's impossible! Think of the logistics of that! How would the supports ever reach the bottom of the Pacific? Think of how much concrete...how much steel!! No, think of another wish!"
The man said OK and tried to think of a really good wish. Finally, he said, "I've been married and divorced four times. My wives always said that I don't care and that I'm insensitive. So, I wish that I could understand women...know how they feel inside and what they're thinking when they give me the silent treatment...know why they're crying, know what they really want when they say 'nothing'...know how to make them truly happy..."
There was a silence. And then the genie said, "You want that bridge with two lanes or four?"

30 Seconds to Mars - "City of Angels"

If I can just have one-tenth of his singing talent..


There was truth, there was consequence, against you.
A weak defense, then there's me.
I'm 17, and looking for a fight.
All my life, I was never there just a ghost, running scared.

Not loving their first hit of the latest album Up in the Air, this song might restore my love for 30 Seconds to Mars. I'm loving the acoustic version, still undecided about the original.

Pain and pleasure

Chuck Palahniuk quote
It's so hard to forget pain, but it's even harder to remember sweetness.
We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace. - Chuck Palahniuk